happiness

Ok so let me begin with an apology. I told you on April 17, that I would introduce you to the rest of the committee in my head the following week. Well what had happened was…(just kidding). What happened was that my brain is healing which means there are times when I have to rest more than usual. In the last three weeks I have had to rest and stay off screens more and that means I had to deprioritize my blog. So I did. Thankfully, I am feeling better and I am back. So onward we go. Here is part two of the committee in my head. Grab your favorite beverage or snack and let’s chat. In addition to my protective posse that I shared with you back in April, I also have a group of thrivers that reside in my head. They help to pull me back from the edge when I follow one of the protectors down a rabbit hole. They help me to restore my peace when I experience an unexpected disruption. They quite frankly help me to be the best version of myself. When they are in the driver’s seat I am less judgmental of me and others, and that is always a good thing. Let me introduce you to them. That is it. That is the committee in my head. At any given moment of my day, I could be trying to calm one of the protectors down, so that a thriver could take first position. It takes practice to keep the protectors calm, but it is worth it. I didn’t enjoy always feeling annoyed, exhausted, afraid, or like a victim. I enjoy my day so much more and I feel centered when the thrivers are in control. There was a time when I felt like there was a hole in my soul that I could not fill, but leaning into my curiosity, grace, passion, purpose and creativity I have gotten that hole to shrink. It isn’t gone yet. It takes work. Leaning into my thrivers has shifted my focus from what I have acquired, or earned, or about other peoples’ recognition. My focus now is on my joy and on making sure that I leave others better than I found them. It takes work though, daily work, and honestly sometimes minute by minute work. But the payoff is worth it. At the end of the day I am no longer replaying interactions either ashamed of the way I thoroughly destroyed someone with my words, or feeling like I was victimized. I am in control now and in a way that allows me to be proud of who I am, while making space for other people to be authentic. So there, I have bared my soul to you in the hopes that this frees you in some way. Chocolate serenity for me is about a mindset of peace, liberation and joy. There is so much that women, especially women of color, are socialized and traumatized into enduring that simply waking up can leave us feeling weighted down. Whether what weighs us down is familiar or genuinely unique to each of us, there are ways that we can put them down. We just don’t always know how. For me, this is what helps. If you think this can help someone else, please share it with them. The goal is for us all to get to our version of chocolate serenity. Don’t forget to like and/or subscribe, and follow me on Instagram. And if you know someone who needs help finding their own peace I am happy to offer a complimentary coaching session. Have a great day.